this upcoming venus retrograde is asking us to get serious about our roles, goals, histories, & futures with relationships, intimacy, connection, & pleasure.
when we search for or attempt to consume (or be consumed by) love, intimacy, connection, pleasure - we are out of integrity with ourselves & others. we chase feelings & short-term solutions to fill gaps within or soothe the hungry hearts of our inner children. it happens! it's what we're taught culturally & societally, but continuing on in this way leaves us empty, starving, and playing into patterns that hurt us, others, and feed into a collective shadow of relational dynamics steeped in white supremacy, capitalism, and cis/heteropatriarchy. we aren't objects, we aren't unlimited resources, we aren't territories to tour through, we are beautiful, complex, inspirited people - and we owe it to each other & ourselves to treat us that way.
venus in retrograde in capricorn wants us to look into our hearts, look into our relationships - to understand that the love & intimacy we desire we must first give to ourselves in order to mindfully connect with others. because if we don't love ourselves in regular ritual practice, the love others give us will never stick & we will feel we never have enough to give.
during this time, we must commit to healing in relation & love - of all kinds. we are meant to get really serious about needs, desires - how we meet them for ourselves, how we get them met, & how we meet them for others. we must be willing & dedicated to the work of self, other, & collective love in order to liberate ourselves from outdated belief systems, codependent patterns, & oppressive structures that have negatively dictated how we approach care, connection, & sexuality, to name a few. this means doing the inner work of first - looking.
what are our beliefs & values around love, intimacy, sex? what work have we done & what have we yet to do to alchemize our attachment wounds? who have we been to others, how have we shown up (or not) in our bonds? what do we have to give & how can we show up ready to support, honor, & provide for ourselves, lovers, friends, community, society?
we must be resourced & know our resources to do this. we must be devoted & also flexible. we must be in it for the long haul, no matter the missteps. liberated relationships take time, effort, & constantly showing up truer, bolder, & more honest over & over.
this retrograde will put us to the test & ask us - are we really ready to get free with one another? to relate in new paradigms, to surrender to our bodies & spirits with intention rather than from a place of consumption & instant gratification? from the expansive heart rather than the hungry heart?
what well-worn ways, behaviors are you willing to sacrifice to live your life with love, the biggest revolutionary force we have at our disposal? what compromises to your comfort zones are you willing to make to meet others in their fullest truths from your fullest truths? to meet the world & your role in it from your fullest truths?
it's not easy, but trust - avoiding this work is much harder, more painful, & the benefits much more elusive & faraway from us than getting down & dirty now. start with yourself, start slow, but start / keep going!
is a writer, performer, healer, feeler, weirdo witch from the great beyond.